Canada’s Prime Minister, Justin Trudeau condemned the arson at Kawartha Muslim Religious Association’s a-Salaam mosque in Peterborough on November 14, 2015, which is being investigated as a hate crime.
In this statement issued on November 16, Trudeau repeated his strong belief that the diversity of faith groups which share the same Canadian values are a source of strength, not weakness. “The values that make our country great are values that celebrate our diversity and our religious tolerance. Canada is a country that is strong, not in spite of our differences, but because of them. Muslim-Canadians contribute enormously to the social and economic fabric of our nation.”
Two days later a-Salaam mosque in Peterborough was mentioned yet again and this time in Trudeau’s statement against the expressions of hatred and racism in the aftermath of Paris attacks. “Diversity is Canada’s strength. These vicious and senseless acts of intolerance have no place in our country and run absolutely contrary to Canadian values of pluralism and acceptance,” said Trudeau.
Does all Muslim religious leadership in Canada share the same values mentioned by Justin Trudeau? The Imam of a-Salaam mosque in Peterborough, Shazim Khan, provided an interesting perspective about the family values in Islam.
In a a speech at Abu Huraira Center in Toronto few years ago, Imam Shazim Khan explained that the wife has always to respond to her husband’s call to bed unless she has a genuine reason, to avoid suspicious behavior such as talking to other men, to serve her husband in order make her marriage successful. The husband, according to Imam Shazim Khan, should take care of all his wife’s needs, and to prevent his wife from having a job outside home unless there is necessity.
The following are excerpts of Imam Shazim Khan’s speech:
“It is very important [when the wife responds to her husband’s call to bed]. Why? It just helps in order to protect and preserve the husband’s chastity as well as the chastity of the wife.
“So the Prophet, peace be upon him (PBUH he said): ‘Even in that situation she should not refuse.’ And to refuse, and to refuse to obey her husband in this respect [to respond to his call to have sex] is a major sin in Islam. It is a major sin.
“The Prophet PBUH he said: ‘If a man invites his wife to bed and she refuses to come, and he sleeps, he goes to bed and he sleeps while he is angry with her, the angels curse her until the next morning.’And that hadith [Islamic narration attributed to Muhammad’s sayings and deeds] is found in Sahih [authentic book of narrations] al-Bukhari and al-Muslim.
“If a man calls on his wife to satisfy his desire with her and she refuses for no genuine reason, then what happens? and he goes to bed and he is angry with her, then the angels curse her till the morning. There is no power (to do good) and no might (to stay away from evil) without (help from) Allah [لا حول ولا قوة إلا بالله]. Imagine the angels cursing a sister for not responding to the call of her husband.
“But brothers, we need also to understand that the sisters are human beings, and so we need to understand, and we need to think also about our wives and to examine their condition. Sometimes they’re sick sometimes they’re over-boarded, they are stressed out. We have to understand and use our discretion.
“It is not all time when a individual in that mood, in that state, so we need to be, just in dealing with them, and don’t take that hadith out of context, it doesn’t mean to say that anytime and every-time irrespective of how, irrespective of her condition, whether she is sick or she is not sick. No. This is talking about a normal situation. What we have to, as I said, give special considerations to her situation also.
“One of the rights of the husband over his wife is that she should avoid at all times suspicious situations with other men. And this something very very important. In Islam, Muslims, the man reacts to be very jealous. Jealousy, the ghira [غيرة], is something that is recommended in Islam.
“And one time Saad ibn Abi Waqqas [سعد بن ابي وقاص], one of the companions of the Prophet PBUH was jealous. If his wife sat on a camel or a horse he would not anybody else to sit on that horse. And the companions they used to get upset of him: ‘What is the problem with you?’ So they went to the Prophet PBUH and they complained: ‘What’s the matter with Saad? If his wife sits on a camel… he gets upset, he is so jealous. What is his problem?’
“The prophet PBUH said: ‘Are you amazed by Saad’s jealousy? I have more jealousy than Saad and Almighty Allah is more jealous than me, and Allah’s ghirah [jealousy] is his prohibitions…
“So a woman should avoid, a wife, should avoid all suspicious situations with other men because that leads to evil speculations and once that, once evil speculations are harboured in the heart and that enters to our marriage there is no trust anymore in the marriage and one of the most important ingredients of a successful marriage the both parties the husband should trust the wife and the wife should trust the husband…
“The woman then should avoid all these situations. She should also avoid displaying her beauty to strangers even though she might be related to those men as long as she allowed to marry them they are not mahram [an unmarriageable kin with whom sexual intercourse would be considered incestuous] to her she is not allowed to display her beauty her charms to them. Her beauty is exclusive for her husband.
“She should also avoid unnecessary talking with stranger men, because this, I know many husbands they don’t like, and this encourages and leads to immorality and a breach of trust which eventually destroys the marriage.
“The Prophet PBUH he said and I want you to listen carefully to this hadith. Thee types of individuals don’t ask about them because they are doomed. Three types of individuals don’t even ask. Because you know what they are doomed.
Among them the Prophet PBUH said: ‘A woman when her husband is absent even though he has sufficed her from all wordly needs she adorned herself in his absence to other men, so don’t ask about her.‘
“One of them whom you should not ask about is a woman in the absence of her husband despite the fact that he provided her with every thing she needs. There is no need for her to go out. There is no need for her to call anybody. There is no need for her to talk to anybody. Yet she adorned, she beautified herself and she goes out and she speaks to other men. That individual, don’t ask about her, because she’s doomed.
“The Prophet PBUH and that hadith is from Sahih al-Bukhari, the Prophet PBUH forbids speaking to women without their husbands’ permission.
“We are not allowed to talk to somebody’s wife. I know some brothers they love to socialize. So when they go to functions and so on the brother goes and he talks to his brother’s wife and his wife goes and talks to the other brother… This is not from Islam. You talk to the brother and your wife talks to his wife. From the hadith we can gather that if there is permission that is ok, but even then it has to be limited to only regulations that pertain to how a woman and when a woman is allowed to talk and what she is allowed to talk.
One of the rights of the husband over his wife also is that she should serve him. She should serve him, meaning she should cook for him. She should take care of his clothes; take care of the household; make life comfortable for him… The most authentic opinion is that she is required to do this, because this is what enhances and brings blessings and harmony and love in a marriage…
“One of the rights of the husband also is that the wife should protect his honour, his children and his wealth… A good wife is a wife that [sic] takes care of the children, that [sic] raises them in an Islamic manner. She makes that her business. Her greatest joy is raising the kids and to make available and to beautify herself for her husband and she protects her chastity. She only makes available herself to her husband and she protects herself and she stays away from everything that her husband doesn’t like in order to please him and to make the marriage work…
“The Prophet PBUH said he said because of this ingratitude [of the wives towards their husbands] that is why most inhabitants of hell are women.
“So these are some of the rights of the husband, the main ones, so I want every single sister whether she is married or unmarried because eventually she will going to be married Allah Willing. She should pay attention if she wants to live a successful and she wants a happy marriage life, then she needs to fulfill the rights of her husband…
“Many of us we marry and we don’t put effort in owning a livelihood to protect and maintain our family. And many times our wives are forced by necessity to go outside and work. You mean she goes and works she is subjected to the fitnah [temptation] of society and that destroys her deen [religion] which ultimately leads her to neglect of the kids and destroys the family unity and its structure and then we complain. But the problem is with us. We do not show this responsibility…
“So my dear brothers we need to understand that it is our responsibility to take care of our wives and it is not right for a man to subject his wife to the trials and fintah [temptation] of society and force and compel her to go to work. That is not Islamic. What kind a man are you if you do that? You are not included in this [Quranic] verse ‘Men are the protectors and maintainers of women’ [الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاء] if you do that…
“So when we leave today I want each and every one of you, each and every one of us should make that commitment from now and until we die… we are not going to allow our wives to go to work unless it is necessary.
“We will show her our responsibility because we are men and because Almighty Allah commanded us to do that because we want to protect them and we love them and we care for them…”