Sheik Houssein Muhammad Amer (حسين محمد عامر) is the Imam of Centre Aljisr (مركز الجسر الإسلامي) in Laval, Quebec also a member of Quebec council of Imams.
In a lecture at Al-Rawdah Mosque in Montreal (published on September 2, 2015), Imam Houssein Amer mocked the Western idea of “marital rape” and explained the differences between the West and Islam in this regard.
The following are excerpts of Houssein Amer’s speech (originally in Arabic):
“According to the Western view, the woman who is a spouse – her husband is not allowed to force her to have sex with him. It is forbidden. Why? Because, this is her freedom [of choice]. They [the West] were the first to establish the term of “marital rape”. Is it possible that a husband rapes his wife? Yes. He forces her to have sex with him. It is forbidden. Mistake. She may complain. Glory be to Allah.
“At the same time, some of our brothers, the preachers, told a story that happened in Germany. A German brother converted to Islam. His wife remained German [non-Muslim], and she defied him by bringing her lover to the house. Afterwards, the issue developed into a sexual intercourse. He hit her lover. She called the Police. The wife called the Police, told them: my lover has been attacked in my home. As you have rights in home I also have rights in home. When the Police arrived and listened to both sides, the Policeman told him [the husband]: The Law does not ban her, and you cannot ban her from having any sexual activity even with somebody else. Are you upset? Do the same like her. There is no power but in Allah.
“They [the West] made no difference even between the legitimate aspect [sex within marriage] which we have discussed and which serves as a guarantee from the this disease [HIV] and the sex outside marriage, Glory be to Allah, Glory be to Almighty Allah.
“And worse than that, they opened the other issues, such as homosexuality, man with man, woman with woman, and nowadays a man can go with a man to a church and a priest marries them. Some brothers say: let them live in halal [legitimate status]. They live together in contradiction to the [Islamic] Law, Glory be to Allah. I’m saying that the proper moral approach is that there is freedom [of choice] but within the Islamic Law, within the Islamic Law. You are a free-person in your subjugation to Almighty Allah.”
In previous sermon (published on December 31, 2010) Imam Houssein Amer justified the wisdom of wife beating in Islam (“not severely”) as a last resort and as an act of education in case the husband fails to convince his wife to return to the right path of Islam.
Here is an excerpt of Amer’s sermon (originally in Arabic):
“The Prophet [Muhammad], peace be upon him, says: if they [wives] do so, then, [the husbands should] beat them but not severely [Muslim 1218]. Some people argue, when they hear this text, that the Islamic Law permitted wife beating, and other people say, when hearing it, that Islam oppresses the wife by allowing the husband to beat her.”
“My brothers and my loved ones, the beating in Islam is a type of education, and it is said that it is the last resort [literally “the last medicine”, meaning a medicine that is administered after all others failed to cure the illness as it is said in the hadith:] the last medicine is burning [the skin with fire].”
“The West prohibits the beating for the purpose of education and this is the position that was taken there. However, the truth is otherwise. The beating is a type of education… the beating is used after exhausting all effective and successful [possible] solutions and [it turned out that] there is no treatment without it.”
“The Koran referred to the beating in the context of a series of treatment saying: But those [wives] from whom you fear arrogance – [first] advise them; [then if they persist], forsake them in bed; and [finally], strike them. But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them [Surat An-Nisā’, 34].”
“This is the case regarding the wife if you are right, and she should be admonished, her husband should remind her his rights over her and she should return to Follow @ her Lord Almighty. In case that the admonition and the advice fail in dealing with her, he [the husband] has to abandon the bed, meaning to distance himself from her, to snub her, to avoid touching her to the point that he will not dream on her, and if the estrangement fails the beating [of the wife] is permitted, as the Prophet said: not severe beating.”
Marital rape does not exist in Islam, only in the West
Imam Houssein Amer’s views go in line with the positions expressed in recent years by other senior Imams in Canada:
Abu Ameenah Bilal Philips (Toronto, Ontario): “Men are considered the head of the family and the final decisions are in his hand… her responsibility is to obey him as long as his requests are permissible according to Islamic law… [In] Islam, a woman is obliged to give herself to her husband and he may not be charged with rape… It is true that the Sharee’ah does permit a husband to hit his wife… The Qur’anic verse outlines the procedures which should be followed in the case of a rebellious and unjustly disobedient wife… the intent of this beating is not inflicting pain and punishment but merely to bring the woman back to her senses and re-establish authority in the family.”
Sheikh Musleh Khan (Toronto, Ontario): The husband is the only leader of the family; “the wife should be obedient to her husband at all times” including when he calls her to bed; she should “ask her husband’s permission before leaving the home” and “is obliged to serve her husband.”
Sheikh Ahmed Abdul Kader Kandil (Montreal, Quebec): “The man has a right over his wife also regarding the issue of obedience in the sense that she has to obey him on any matter and particularly when the man calls his wife to bed.”
Imam Shazim Khan (Peterborough, Ontario): “So the Prophet, peace be upon him (PBUH he said): ‘Even in that situation she should not refuse.’ And to refuse, and to refuse to obey her husband in this respect [to respond to his call to have sex] is a major sin in Islam. It is a major sin… If a man calls on his wife to satisfy his desire with her and she refuses for no genuine reason… the angels curse her till the morning… One of the rights of the husband over his wife also is that she should serve him… wife should protect his honour… she stays away from everything that her husband doesn’t like in order to please him…”
Imam Abdi Hersy (Edmonton, Alberta): “The husband has many rights [حقوق] on his wife… first and foremost, she has to obey you. She has to obey you, ok. He comes with the orders. You have to give orders and she has to obey you… That’s one of the rights of the husband for his wife. So she is going to cook and clean and prepare food… So she has to obey you… And the biggest thing when it comes to obeying your husband, ladies, is when he calls you in the bed stop what you are doing, quit… Obey your husband… The other thing that is a right upon the wife for her husband is she cannot leave the house without his permission…
“First and foremost, ladies obey husbands… First and foremost, if you order her to pray or to obey Allah… she has no choice but to obey him… if husband calls his wife to his bed and she refuses without any valid excuse… the angels curse her until morning… She has to listen if he orders to restrain herself or refrain from haram [forbidden action]. She wants to do haram [forbidden action], and he says no, she has to obey him with that… if you order to do prayer, do prayers… she has to obey you, she cannot say no.”